Grief Resolutions

As we approach the dawn of a new year, many of us contemplate making resolutions designed to kick bad habits and foster a commitment to good health. Resolution is defined as “a firm decision to do or not to do something”. Grief however does not respond well to resolutions. We cannot make a firm decision “to do or not do” grief. The option really isn’t ours. As humans who form attachments – to other people,… Read more »

Death anniversaries

We don’t need a big, red circle around certain days on the calendar. These are the dates that are etched in our memories. We remember where we were, who we were with, and what time of year it was. Today marks the 30th anniversary of the death of my grandfather. In those 30 years there have been innumerable family milestones: births, weddings, graduations, and holiday gatherings. A diagnosis My grandfather was diagnosed with a brain… Read more »

What to say to a grieving person

How many times have you felt anxious at the thought of attending a visitation? Did you run through what you might say to those in the receiving line? If so, you aren’t alone. People often feel uncomfortable and unsure of what to say or do.   What not to say The following video by Kay Warren provides helpful guidance in what and what not to say. If you aren’t a person of prayer, you can… Read more »

Finding Gratitude in Grief

As we approach Thanksgiving Day and all the fall festivities taking place this weekend, we can find many reasons to be filled with gratitude. The bountiful harvest that will contribute to our Thanksgiving meal. The opportunity to connect with our local farmers and community at the Farmer’s Market while we gather our ingredients. The time spent with family and friends. What if we aren’t feeling so grateful? What if we are missing a special person… Read more »

Funeral professionals and education

The funeral profession is a combination of art, science, heart and soul. It is a demanding profession – physically, emotionally, spiritually and socially. It causes us to give pause and reflect on our experiences in caring for our Island community. Sometimes, we can feel isolated from others. We have chosen a profession that demands we respond with caring and empathy at moment’s notice. This often means cancelled plans, delayed holiday gatherings and little time for… Read more »